We are possessed by anger when people done something wrong to us or inciting us from our containment into fury. Anger is the positive indirect love. I said this because anger is being stirred when someone has to be corrected or should be reprimanded. So anger is about love at all. But it must be in optimistic way so that anger can be said love. Just as God did to his people Israel, he was angry to them when they were not submitting themselves to his commands and orders, but his anger is compassionate and just. He gave what was due to them, and aftermath his being loving God prevails. Thus, do not put anger unto situation that is not right. It must be used in some what to correct somebody or to fix him.
I have here some lists to managing anger. These maybe useful to you and can intervene to not temper an instant.
- Should have a kind heart and stronghold patience. Having these characteristics can help you manage your kindling emotion, especially when anger is to be taken. Being kind can block the negative fury into a mild one. Such also patience may reduce that scene of anger, thus a good communication and reproach will do.
- Putting in mind that you love that person. Doing this so can make your anger less intensify than the usual.
- Everybody has fallibility. Remember that human race is not safe from erring, thus putting yourself into somebody's shoe is should be.
- Confer to someone's opinion and the majority of the group. In cases of nonacceptance of others opinion can lead to enrage and anger. Allowing yourself to understand their thoughts and inklings can avoid your hot-temper soul. Take down your pride for a moment and take it easy to affirm the group.
- Have reflection and contemplation of the way your anger explodes. Doing so can help you to understand your own self when you are enraged. Are you the type of person who is mad already but the countenance is still smiling, or the person with terror features that want to eat up whole whom it reproach? Routinely evaluation of self is very important to find out what are the wrong moves and possibly severed said that you made, which may be improved in the next time they happen again.
- Humility and empathy. These are not belonged to man. They are only features of God. These two components are so difficult to do and combined in situation. Nobody can react in these ways. However if you can do these two components, I congratulate you!
- Anger should be correct and has basis. Is the anger is right for that situation or does it has a basis to be angry?
- Do not let your anger control you fully, rather, you should manipulate it in positive way.
- Forgive and forget. Scars in the heart can never be removed anymore, while heart should be forgiving and oblivious causing anger to be eliminated against others sin to you.
- Practice praying and thinking of God in about to burst anger. This can be very effective way to find endurance to contain your rage. By allowing God to help you and control your feelings without his physical presence can save you to say bombastic and revile words, and can eventually prevent hurting them or making actions that can be detrimental to them.
